When you give something up, whether it’s a certain type of food, drink or even an emotion or a limiting belief, how do you do it?
Do you go cold turkey and white knuckle it, fighting the cravings and inclinations with every fiber of your being? While that may work for some, I am going to be bold and say that for the vast majority of us, giving things up in this way is not sustainable. It simply WILL NOT last. Regarding anger, the Buddha said, “Give up your anger completely”, and he went on to say that suppressing or denying the anger was not the way. Instead, he taught that we must seek to understand both the root and the fruit—the cause and the effect--of our anger, in order for it to dissolve. I like this way of looking at giving up anything that is causing us harm, and this is the approach that I use with my clients. If you're constantly craving sweets and have low energy, we ask, "why?". We tune into what it is that your body and even your spirit is REALLY asking for. Maybe you need help slowing down to notice and respond to your hunger cues when they first arise. Maybe you also need help understanding how to choose foods and combinations of foods that regulate your blood sugar. Actually, there's no maybe. Those are the two main things we look at, in synergy with identifying the best overall eating plan for YOUR unique physiology. That means minimizing some foods, giving some foods up completely for a while or indefinitely and/or learning how to eat some foods in a way that doesn't leave you starving in 30 minutes. We also focus on the best foods to include, so that you don't feel deprived. That said, in my line of work as a Functional Nutritionist and Transformative Coach, I’ve talked to many a person who was not ready to give up foods, habits or attitudes that were harming them, in order to adopt new supportive ones. Many are unwilling to explore what might be harming them, for fear they will have to give up something that they hold dear. Even if that something is the cause of their suffering and a major roadblock to their best health and life. Most of these people that I'm referring to obviously never became clients, but a few did slip through the cracks. That was before I got clear on my own intention to facilitate true and lasting transformation and only work with clients who are ready for the level of transformation that I offer.
A person who is not ready to heal (physically and/or emotionally) has a hundred and one great reasons why they should keep doing what they’re currently doing, versus making a radical shift in their diet, along with creating the emotional and spiritual shifts that are needed for authentic healing.
If that’s where you’re at right now, that’s ok. We all have to spend some time in this space. My hope for you, however, is that you will find the courage to ask yourself what is causing your pain and what is the message that your body, mind and/or spirit are trying to convey to you about your needs. Perhaps your headaches, fatigue and bloating are your body’s way of saying, “Please feed me properly. Do the work to figure out which foods are best suited for me. Listen to and honor my cues.” And maybe your spirit is saying, “Let go of those harmful foods and thoughts. Learn how to say yes to yourself. Be open to exploration and new ways of thinking and being. It’s time to grow.”
For those of you who are truly ready to heal and are just looking for the right guide to show you the way in, I would love to hear from you.
I have space in my calendar right now for two highly motivated individuals who are ready for an enlightened approach to wellness and to life. If you are tired of feeling lousy, and you don’t want to just pop a pill (because that’s not going to get you to root of the issue, nor will it make you feel the level of aliveness that you know you are here to feel), and you are ready to play full out to heal both physically and emotionally, I am thrilled to offer you a FREE 30-45 minute, no-strings-attached Enlightened Wellness Clarity Session with me. The purpose of this session is to help you get clear on how you want to feel and why, as well as what’s holding you back, so that you can make an informed decision about how to get started on your healing journey. This session will also give us both a chance to explore how it feels to work together, with no expectations regarding the outcome. I promise that you will ONLY benefit from this session! I don’t need clients. I want ideal clients, because in truth, the healing work that I do is not about having a career. It is my life’s purpose. It is in support of how I want to feel when I wake up in the morning and when I go to sleep at night. So, if we’re not a good fit, and one or both of us isn’t on board, I won’t try to keep you. If we ARE a good fit, it’s still your choice. I ONLY want to work with you if you want to work with me.
You should know that I only offer 90-Day intensives. That's because I'm in the business of transformation, and transformation takes time. My Enlightened Wellness 90-Day Intensive gives you the time you need to change your diet and develop the best way of eating for your unique physiology. It also allows for the consistent and expert one-on-one guidance and support that you need to turn your health around and get unstuck in all areas of your life. In case you’re wondering, I don’t offer lesser programs or a la carte assessments or sessions. Like I said, I’m in the business of transformation. Transformation takes not only time, but also deep level of readiness to not only make some big shifts in your diet, but in all areas of your life. Can you do this on your own? Some of you can, but most of you will be best served by a guide to show you the way, as well as to hold space for you. You need the right support and the right accountability to make this leg of your healing journey highly effective and transformative. Will you be totally transformed in 90 days? Listen, we’re never done growing and fine-tuning, but give me 90 days, and together, we’ll get you further than you ever thought possible; and I promise you, you won’t want to go back to the way things were before.